Neil Lane’s entrance on an episode of The Bachelor means only one thing: someone is about to receive a major rock in the form of an engagement ring. The now-famous jeweler has provided most of The Bachelor/Bachelorette season-finale jewels, some of which were worth up to $100,000!

However, we are all too familiar with the disappointing fate of many of the couples who get engaged on the final episode. After surviving the odds of a 30:1 dating ratio, expectations of every date being a helicopter ride to a picturesque picnic, and having millions of people tune in for your first kiss, the matter of entering “real life” together is often the final blow.

So, what happens to the engagement ring when the outcome is less than fairytale? It depends on how long the couple stays together, says Jesse Csincsak, who proposed to DeAnna Pappas at the end of season four of The Bachelorette. “In the contract, it says if you are not together for two years after the final day of the show airing, you have to give them back the ring,” he told Bustle.

One would think that the rings would return to their maker, but it sounds like that’s not the case either. Neil Lane told StyleCaster, “I make rings hoping that people stay together forever, but after they get the ring, I don’t have a say in it, and what happens after that, I don’t know. Where the ring goes, I have to say, I don’t really know. I just say it goes to ring heaven. That’s my response.”

Ring heaven, or ring…graveyard? That’s what Becca Kufrin told the Bachelor Party podcast, explaining, “I will say there is a ring graveyard. They get to keep them all locked away, hidden from everyone – all the scorned rings.”

If you were looking to acquire a hand-me-down sparkler from our favorite reality dating show, your chances are slim, but not impossible. Engagement rings from season 2 and season 7 of The Bachelor eventually ended up on Ebay, listed by each of the almost-brides. Ouch.